Are you being a little too rigid in your life? Maybe it's time to get moving and loosen up your approach a bit. Let's talk about why this is so important and how it can lead to greater success in your life and business.
Learning how to loosen up and become more flexible in how I was running my business was a lesson I had to learn the hard way. Building an online business more than any other business has caused me to grasp the importance of this way of being very quickly.
I like to use the word "flexible" because when most people hear that word, they think of the muscles throughout their body. Who wants to walk around with tense, stiff muscles that are prone to injury? Of course none of us do! Just like our muscles require the right exercises and stretching to stay flexible, so too our approach to life needs to be stretched and requires a good workout from time to time. We never want to lose the ability to move with opportunity and to adapt to the needs of others.
When I started out building my business, I was very much focused on doing what I wanted just the way I wanted with my business. At times we can be blinded by our own inspiration. (Watch out of this as it can be the beginning of an infatuation which never ends well).
I quickly learnt that to be successful in business, it’s not about creating the products or services that us as the business owner want, no matter how convinced we are that people will like them. It’s about getting clear at exactly what you are good at, what your strengths are and then being flexible enough to find ways to use your knowledge and skills to serve the needs of others.
More often than not, that will mean adapting your approach, developing new skills and becoming incredibly resourceful to be able to fulfil the needs of others.
In business it comes down to walking a fine line of being incredibly disciplined to do the work that is required and yet flexible enough to be able to adjust your approach as you come to better understand the needs of your clients.
The ability to adapt and stretch our approach is so important for anyone who wants their business to stay relevant in such a fast changing world.
As I came to understand this in business, I also saw just how important this flexible approach is in our personal life.
People who are overly rigid and who cling so desperately tight to a certain set of rules or standards set themselves up for a lot of pain and frustration. Again, the world is changing everyday and so are we. If we are clinging so desperately to a past identity or way of doing things because we think it is "safe," then we become very vulnerable. Sure we need to stick by what we believe is true and carry on great traditions, but at the same time we want to be flexible enough to look at our lives and ask ourselves what we could be doing better. We need to be coachable, to get help when we need it and to focus on expanding our knowledge so we are growing.
As humans, we all have a basic need for variety. Our brain craves new experiences and trying new things helps give us a better perspective and makes us well rounded individuals. This doesn't mean we need to complete disrupt our routines and schedules but we do need to be mixing things up from time to time.
It boils down to finding that balance between having the discipline to do what needs to be done to keep the wheels turning in all the areas of our life and yet at the same time, being open to new possibilities and more effective approaches that will make life a little easier.
How do we maintain flexibility in our muscles? By stretching them! I would encourage anyone reading this to start looking for opportunities to try new things, or even better plan a time every week where you choose to do things you would never usually do. That might be trying a different cafe, walking instead of catching the bus or how about not checking your social accounts on your phone for a day (I can hear people hissing at that one)!!
So practice being a little more flexible in your life. Don't be afraid to, “sail away from the safe harbour of the known” as Robin Sharma says. Being to ridged in life can stifle our potential and make us very narrow-minded.
Had I really grasped this concept in my early days in business, I would have saved myself so much time and money. Until I learned to deliver what I knew in a way that best met the needs of the people I wanted to serve, I didn't see any growth.
Leave a comment below and let me know what new things you are going to try this week!