I want you to hit pause. Freeze! Stop! You have my permission.
In a time when there are so many demands on our lives, so many responsibilities and so much pressure to meet certain criteria at work and in our personal lives, it’s easy to become addicted to just “doing”. However, right there, a problem rears it’s ugly head. We need to realise that there is a huge difference between doing and actually achieving.
Everything in life requires balance and perhaps more than ever, we need to remember that “we are human beings and not human doings,” to use Tony Robbins’ words. While I am not suggesting we become complacent in life, we do need to ensure the action we are taking is leading us in a direction that inspires us and is causing to progress toward outcomes that will bring us lasting fulfilment.
Perhaps you can think of someone you know who seems to be going through life “just doing time” as Less Brown says. They are caught in the rat-race on auto pilot. They are trying to meet so many demands from other people and society that they stifle their potential trying to live a life that is not congruent with who they really are.
People like this can live the same year over and over because they never discovered what was most important to them. They never connect with a deeper purpose for their lives and so they never have a reason to leave their “comfort zone.” Unfortunately, our “comfort zone” is also our “no growth zone.” And what isn’t growing in nature is dying.
I want you to imagine that I gave you the keys to an incredible sports car. This magnificent vehicle is capable of reaching phenomenal speeds. But instead of ever taking it out on the open road and experiencing all of it’s great power and speed, you just drive it through tiny streets in first gear with your foot to the floor on the accelerator. Can you imagine how much this would stress the engine? In the same way, just doing for the sake of pleasing everyone else or playing small because of fear is setting ourselves up for certain pain in the future.
So what can we do? As I have already suggested, the first thing we need to do is to stop! While this time we live in presents so many magnificent opportunities, the fast pace can sweep us off our feet and carry us down stream in the wrong direction quicker than ever before. By allowing ourselves to stop, assess and if necessary, to course correct on at least a weekly basis, we can ensure we stay headed in a direction that will help us experience greater levels of purpose and fulfilment in life.
Once we stop, we can check in with ourselves. Here are some questions for you to consider: How do you feel? Do you feel in control in your life? Do you feel strong, energetic and inspired or full of dread, anxiety and stress about the future? Would you be happy if you were feeling exactly the same as you do now in a years time? Is what you are doing right now causing you to grow so you be of greater service to others? Do you love what you do? Are you happy where you are right now?
When we can pinpoint exactly what is working in our lives and be honest enough to admit what isn’t working and eliminate the things that don’t serve us, we take control of our lives. When we can consciously choose to fill our days with actions that lead us closer to creating a life that we want to be living and we can clearly see that everyday, what we do is helping us achieve what we want, we will set ourselves up for a life of success, whatever that might mean to you.
One of the greatest gifts we can give anyone is the gift of our full attention. In doing so, we show a huge level of respect for that person. We show them we value what they have to say enough to completely focus on whet they are telling us. Of course most of us know this but few people actually practice doing it and even fewer people give themselves the gift of any sort of attention.
Value yourself enough to start living the life you want to life. Live in a way that is true to who you know really are. Anytime we are progressing towards whatever it is that inspires us, that is when we are achieving. Remember, less doing for the sake of doing and more achieving.
Post by Nash Mackey
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