Have you ever found yourself wanting things to be completely different from the way they are?
Have you found yourself spending your precious time and energy thinking about how “the grass seems so much greener on the other side?”
I’m not talking about dreaming about what is possible for your life…that’s important. I’m talking about wanting to be somewhere else because you are unhappy, angry or even resentful about where you currently are.
For anyone at the point where they are feeling a heap of toxic emotions about their current circumstances, they tend to do one of two things: they just go around in circles, frustrating, blaming and tearing other people down who are succeeding; or they are smart enough to acknowledge that it is time to readjust their approach and move on!
However, when it comes to moving on, there is an important step we need to take to make sure we don’t end up back in the same situation! Considering how important this point is, it doesn’t get talked about as much as it should.…just one of the reasons I was so inspired to create this post for you.
First, let’s quickly discuss goal setting. Because goal setting is what a lot of people default to when they know it is time to make a change – often prompted by events such as a new year, a birthday, a breakup, or the passing of someone close. (Post you might like: Why You Don’t Need A New Year To Make A Fresh Start – As featured on Addicted2Success)
We hear about goal setting everywhere! Every second quote on Instagram says about how important goals are! And I agree, goals are important. I’m sure you get how important goals are too. But despite what people think, setting goals by itself isn’t enough to make lasting change in your life.
Have you noticed that when it comes to certain goals, you always seem to sabotage any progress you make towards them?
This is confusing and disheartening to say the least.
So why does this happen?
One of the key reasons people sabotage themselves is because they are setting goals from a mindset of ingratitude. And ingratitude sabotages your success!
When we are ungrateful, we are subconsciously telling ourselves that what we have isn’t good enough. When we are ungrateful, we are imbalanced. We can find ourselves hoping that by achieving a certain outcome we will feel happier, more fulfilled or whatever the feeling might be we are chasing.
The truth is, if we are setting goals from a place of ingratitude and desperation, we will carry those feelings with us. So while we might reach a certain outcome that we thought would fulfil us in some way, it can be very disappointing when the same feelings show up again. And they always do until we deal with them.
There are certain situations, people and things we have in our life right now. And we need to remember those things we have are ALL we have! We can complain and spend our time wishing things were so different from the way they are…or we could use what we have to the absolute best of our ability and move on and up! And we do that through seeing how everything we have in our life is some how serving us and causing us to grow.
We can look for every reason why something is terrible and we will find it. Or we can see how every situation is benefitting us. “Search and you will find!”
Despite what some people think, being grateful is never about being complacent and settling. Remember if we stay were we are for too long, that is a sure recipe for frustration and disappointment. After all, like everything in nature, we are meant to grow!!
At the end of the day, all we have is all we need…not to get all the way to our destination..but it is always just what we need to take the next step forward.
And as Lao Tzu said, “the journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step.”
If you want to have long term success, gratitude is key!
I invite you to answer these questions to help you level up:
What or who in your life is making you feel frustrated, angry or hurt?
What are at least three things about this person or event that you can use to grow and be the best version of yourself?
Keep answering these questions until you feel deeply grateful.
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Stay great my friend!